The devil wears prada

I have never been a movie critique in my life, but here is where I pen my thoughts about “The devil wears prada”. First of all I apologize to all my readers because I am going to spoil the plot by describing what happens in the movie. But I don’t feel guilty because you should’nt probably see the movie in the first place.

The main actress in the movie right after deciding to take a break from her boyfriend sleeps with another guy, while inebriated, only to realize later on that she wants to go back to her boyfriend. And the boyfriend had nothing to do with the break. She is the one who changed and decided on a different kind of life. I agree that, technically, isn’t cheating but I still didn’t like her getting back with her boyfriend as the movie ends. It seemed to me that she played the field, found out what she liked and picked what she wanted.

That got me thinking. Are relationships like that? Is it like a job? Can you try different ones and pick something you like in the end? Go back to previous ones? The more I think about it, I think you can logically. But my hunch is, you cant. The gut feeling is that something is not right there. Open question. I have no answers!

Renew

I have a feeling that life is all about redefining who you are. When I look back at my life there have been significant periods when I changed almost instantly into someone else. It is almost as if the pressure to change keeps building up and building up till one instant you give up all that you held on to. You give up your inertia, you give up your ego, you give up your beliefs and say “I am ready to learn again”. I know I do not know everything in the world. I know that some of the things that I thought are true are really not.  And finally I am ready to face those fears and those issues and be honest and answer those questions I never did. Finally you sit down with those questions and answer them. You become a different person all together when you stare at those answers in front of you.

I do not mean that everything you held on to you give up. There are ofcourse your family and friends and some values that you keep.  But you actually give up a lot of beliefs. You start dreaming again. You start believing again that you can be whoever or what ever you want to be. You end up looking back at your life and say wow that was long journey and I still have “many miles to go before I sleep”.

I am not sure how this works with others but for me to change, I need to get out of what ever I was in first. I had leave my family to understand how important they were to me. I had get really really far from my friends to appreciate them. I had forget about my values and beliefs to find out which were the ones that were important to me and I wanted to keep. I had to stop coding to realize that I like coding. I had to be out of India to understand how much I want go back and make difference!

I understand now, that we get just once chance to live a life and you need to make most of it. I started to belive again that it is alright to fail. It is alright to make mistakes. The problem with working in an office is that life gets too structured for you to be flexible enough to learn. I think that everyone should take some time out to evaluate who they are and become who they want to be.